The content may be too short for a blog entry, but too large for a status update, and I so badly wanted to get this out of my system, so here I go!
The story begins with a simple decision that my husband and
I took, and any decision post - marriage need not always have to do with having
kids. If at all it is, that is always very very personal. I am sure most of you would agree with me on this.
Well, for those who don't know, I got married about three
months back and had spent very less time at home before marriage, due to my
job. So, before I end my sabbatical, the husband and I decided that I might as
well spend some quality time with my parents. As he couldn't get the required
time off work, the plan was that I come ahead and he join me later.
It's quite surprising to see the frequency and the number of
questions I face since the day I got home though. And of course, the topper of
the list has always been, " Vishesham endengilum?" which actually
implies whether I am pregnant. When this is denied, the second question is always
about how I am treated at my new family. When I say all is well, I am shot with
the next question regarding my job, whether I am planning to work, or waste my "degrees"
and right after that, comes the "you have put on weight".
Initially I took these questions lightly and thought this
shows their care and concern after all. But after facing two weeks of this, it
started getting into my head whether this is all that my life is about. A
simple "How are you doing" would have sufficed if it is care and
concern that they have.. Is it such a strange thing to come home without any of
the above reasons, just to spend time with my family?
Earlier, if I visited home for more than a week's time, my
well - wishers used to be happy. Now they are plain surprised to know I am home
for two weeks. I either have to be
pregnant or abused to visit my parents, right? Also I am content with the way I
look, thank you very much, and if I have put on or reduced weight, I can see that for myself and need not be pointed at every time you see me.
I do not intend to be rude, but I really don't know a nicer way of expressing my irritation on these comments and questions. As much as I love to be home, I dream of a society where people are less judgmental.
